No, We Don’t Want To Know The Sex

Laura and I are expecting our second child in three to six weeks. And no, we don’t know the sex, and we’re not going to find out. I’m actually surprised how few people actually wait and find out the sex the old fashioned way — once the baby is born. “It’s a girl!” or “it’s a boy!” are one of the few pure, joyous and magnificent surprises we have as adults. Why do so many people want to spoil it? It reminds me of when I was little and I looked forward to surprise birthday gifts. As soon as they went away, the fun and excitement around birthdays deflated as well. I’m not suggesting that a birth is any less if the parents already know the sex, but for Laura and me, the surprise makes the birth better.

I can’t wait to meet this new person!

Published by Max Kalehoff

Father, sailor and marketing executive.

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  1. Max – just had our second boy 4 weeks ago. We wanted to find out for practical reasons – ie. do we need to change anything in the nursery, do we have to get new clothes, etc… We did not plan on having a second child so close to the first (15 months) but now can't imagine it any other way. He came two weeks early, in the early morning, so I was out the next day buying diapers, new car seat, etc…. I felt like an amateur, but now it is second nature.

  2. Thanks, Alex. Congrats! We're not changing anything in the nursery. For
    “practical reasons,” we went with a unisex theme, figuring there'd be some
    chance we have more kids.

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